03 Jul Adopted Children Share Honest Stories of the Time They Met Their Birth Parents

For those people who have been raised by adoptive parents, your biological parents will always be something of an enigma.

There are some people who have no interest in knowing the people who conceived them, and consider that the family who took them in to be their true parents. Others burn with an insatiable curiosity to discover their roots, and cannot rest until they personally know them. According to a report by PBS, approximately 2.5 per cent of children in the United States are adopted, and 135,000 children are adopted in the United States each year.

With so many people being raised by adopted parents, it’s inevitable that a lot of people make it their mission to meet the bio-parents. A recent AskReddit thread asked users about their experiences meeting biological parents for the first time, and the resulting anecdotes were pretty interesting.

1. KellyAnn3106

“I never got a chance to. I was adopted in a closed adoption back in the 70s where all identities are permanently sealed. However, a few years ago, we were cleaning out some old paperwork and my mom gave me the notes she had written down at the time. My bio-father had died before I was born so there was zero information on him.

“My bio-mom had provided a few tidbits of information, like the fact that I had siblings, but I think the lawyer intentionally changed some of these details to ‘preserve confidentiality.’ Long story short, there was a name in my mom’s notes. The hospital had screwed up and put the bio-mom’s name on some baby items that were sent home with me. Name in hand, I hit Google…and found her obituary. That hit me harder than I expected. I had always been on the fence about searching but knowing the door was closed forever hurt.”

2. TheyWantMyBlubber

“Finally one of these I can answer! I just met my biological mother yesterday and she’s still in touch with my bio-father! It wasn’t awkward at any moment and she was absolutely everything I could have hoped to find, it has completed my life and shot my confidence up to know I’ve inherited looks and traits from both her and my bio-father. My adoptive mother has been fantastic and is the one who contacted her. My bio-mother turned out to be my ‘Lifetime Movie’ instead of a Jerry Springer episode.”

3. IzzyTheAmazing

“Not actually adopted, I was a ward of the state but I was raised by other people that the courts placed me with. In some ways – yes, I’m happy that I met my bio mom. Some things were really validating, the little things that you don’t realise are passed down, even if you aren’t raised with the person (little things like we both can’t STAND our feet being dirty/dry, to the point of being a little OCD about it).”

“But the reality is – she’s still a drug addict. And sometimes knowing her is harder than not. She’s much nicer than the woman that raised me (who was very abusive), and I sometimes feel angry because I sometimes feel like I’d rather have been raised with a drug addict than someone that beat me but otherwise took care of me.”

4. HodorsWhore

“Not me but a friend – Went searching for his real father right after high school. Ended up finding his dead beat father in Ohio and getting on the same drugs as him. They lived together for 6-10 years until he got his shit together and moved out. He got a job as a chef and redeveloped all the relationships he fucked up. As fucked up as that time was for him, he says it was essential for him to actually be grateful for his adopted parents and grateful for his life. There was a piece missing and finding his father and going through it all helped him put it together.”

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