23 Jun 10 Things Not to Say When Breaking up with Someone

If you’re reading this, it is probably because you are about to do something really sh*tty and you don’t want to make it any worse than you already know it’s going to be.

As awful as it is getting dumped, people don’t often talk about how difficult it is to be the one actually instigating the breakup. Before you embark on this extremely unpleasant journey, it’s best to have a game-plan so you avoid saying something in the moment that you later regret.

When ending a relationship, it’s important to find the right balance between honesty and kindness. If you’re too honest, you might end up saying things that are hurtful, but in a way that isn’t productive and that your ex can’t learn from. If you try too hard to be nice, you might end up leaving them with little explanation, or worse, with the false hope that you might get back together. The following 10 phrases should be avoided at all costs when trying to let someone down easy.

1. “I want to focus on school/work/family right now”

The problem with this phrase is that, although it may be true, it’s not really the reason you’re ending things. If the relationship was perfect and flourishing, you would be able to take on both at once. The real problem is that you don’t value the relationship enough to try (and there’s nothing wrong with that). But blaming the breakup on other things like work sounds like a BS excuse, and your ex will likely pick up on that.

2. “I feel like we’re moving too fast”

This implies that if you just slow down a bit, all will be okay. They’ll be thinking that maybe less calling or hanging out will fix it. But if you’re truly planning on ending the relationship, don’t give them false hope than the it can be salvaged.

3. “I’m just not into it anymore”

This may sound like exactly what you’re feeling, but it’s not the right way to tell your future ex that you don’t want to be with them anymore. It’s extremely vague, and leaving them with no clear reason as to why it’s over will only hurt them more. When left to guess for themselves, they will undoubtedly fall back on the notion that there’s something wrong with them.

4. “I don’t know how to do relationships”

Maybe you don’t have much experience in relationships, but if this was truly a good one, you’d try your best to figure it out. Again, it sounds like BS excuse, and one that leaves them wondering: ‘what’s the real reason?’

5. “I love you, I’m just not in love with you”

Their first reaction to this one will likely be, ‘what the f**k does that even mean?’ It does make some sense – you care about them as a person but you don’t feel that spark that you should feel. Unfortunately, this sounds like an attempt to let them down easy gone wrong, and may leave them feeling friend zoned or unattractive.

The post 10 Things Not to Say When Breaking up with Someone appeared first on Viral Thread.